Episode #24: The Motherhood Champagne-Glass-Tower Model

Episode #24: The Motherhood Champagne-Glass-Tower Model

The Motherhood Champagne-Glass-Tower Model

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“If you are not happy and thriving, all other parts of your life will not thrive. Including your children.”

In this episode I introduce you The Motherhood Champagne-Glass-Tower Model.

I created The Motherhood Champagne-Glass-Tower Model to visually demonstrate the importance of a mother’s “glass” being full. Because if the mother’s glass is empty, she cannot pour into other areas of her life, like her children.

Key takeaways from this episode :

♥    You are the top glass of YOUR champagne glass tower.

♥    If your glass is not full, your “champagne” cannot trickle down into other parts of your life.

♥    To be the happiest mother you know, you must keep your glass full.

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Motherhood fears and how to overcome them – with Belinda Hughes
In this episode you will learn: 

[Timestamps]

[2.03] Introducing The Motherhood-Champagne-Glass-Tower Model

[2.37] The importance of knowing you are top glass and remaining full

[3.28] Why you must fill your own glass

[4.23] Learn how to be the happiest mother you know.

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Episode #23: Motherhood fears and how to overcome them – with Belinda Hughes

Episode #23: Motherhood fears and how to overcome them – with Belinda Hughes

Motherhood fears and how to overcome them – with Belinda Hughes

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“Acknowledging our fears around mothering and motherhood is empowering and courageous.”

This episode of The Tough Mothers Podcast and Tough Mothers TV is deep!
I speak with mum of two, Belinda Hughes, about the fears we feel around our children and parenting, and how we deal with these. And you can too.
Motherhood is an opportunity to really get to know ourselves, and our children are our greatest teachers. Belinda shares how she transitioned from a fear-based space to a loving ground, and how mothers can manage their own fears, and not project them onto their children.

Key takeaways from this episode of the Tough Mothers Podcast and Tough Mothers TV:
♥    Many of the fears mothers face come from our wounded inner child.

♥    Fear is a natural part of mothering and motherhood.

♥    It is important to feel the fear, but we should not attach ourselves to it.

♥    Learning to surrender to your fears and feelings is an important part of motherhood.
      P.S. Surrender does not mean give in, surrender means let go.

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Motherhood fears and how to overcome them – with Belinda Hughes
In this episode you will learn [Podcast, TV timestamps]:

[6.54, 5.24] How not to let fear hold you and your child back.

“Trust [your] child, trust his capabilities and his awareness… I can’t put my fears onto my child.”

[8.20, 7.50] The importance of taking a step back from the fear.

“Every part of you as a mother wants to hang on, look after them and make sure they’re okay, but that is one of the worst things you can do for their development.”

[9.43, 9.13] Become aware of your fears, and learn how to manage them.

“Managing fear within ourselves is hard and very important.”

[12.08, 11.38] Dealing with your fears helps to heal your inner child.

“Is that my fear to own or is that being projected onto me?”

[13.02, 12.32] How to overpower your fears by recognising the source.

“Become conscious of the unconscious.”

[15.00, 14.30] How to make decisions from a place of love rather than fear.

“I ask myself: what would love do in this situation?”

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Episode #22: Sleep deprivation and your mind in motherhood – with Jacqui Joe

Episode #22: Sleep deprivation and your mind in motherhood – with Jacqui Joe

Sleep deprivation and your mind in motherhood - with Jacqui Joe

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“When a mother starts a conversation, that opens up the floodgate for other mothers to speak.”

How do you deal with sleep deprivation as a mother?
Are you open to having a conversation about the hardships of motherhood and sleep?

In this episode of The Tough Mothers Podcast and Tough Mothers TV, I speak with my friend Jacqui Joe, who had two non-sleeping boys, and knows all too well the effects of severe sleep deprivation. Jacqui very openly discusses her internal thoughts and mental health during this time, how she felt she should be doing better as a mother and why it is so important to have a conversation and ask for help, even if that seems hard.

Key takeaways from this episode of the Tough Mothers Podcast and Tough Mothers TV:
♥    Take care of yourself FIRST so you can take care of others.

♥    Having the perfect motherhood journey is a MYTH. It is not your job to fulfill society’s standards of you.

♥    Becoming a mother can shake you to your core and may not be what you expected nor planned. Learning to accept that you are having a difficult time and that your struggles are valid are the first steps to recovery.

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Sleep deprivation and your mind in motherhood - with Jacqui Joe
In this episode you will learn [Timepoints for Podcast, TV]:
[5.15, 5.45] When your baby is born, you are born as a mother.

“Motherhood can rock you to your core and you end up being a different person.”

[9.54, 9.24] Don’t take every single piece of advice you are given. Put yourself first, Mama!

“Our kids are the most important thing but after us.”

[16.23, 15.53] The importance of being authentic despite fear of failure, or worrying you’re a bad mum. No mother has it all together!

“Saying ‘I don’t have this sorted’ or ‘I’m not doing so good’ is a really hard thing to say.”

[20.27, 19.57] Sometimes asking for help as a mum is knowing what you’re asking for.

“As a mum, you often don’t sleep because you worry for your child. You need to ask for help and take the help.”

[23.39, 23.09] There’s so much expectation to being a mum. But the truth is all mums are struggling.

“Most of the time, the negative voices inside your head lie to you. Ignore them. Be discerning.”

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YOU DON’T HAVE TO STRUGGLE, MAMA!
Learn how you can thrive in motherhood and be a happy mother.
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1) Help you understand how matrescence and motherhood change you
2) Explain the importance of mental space in motherhood
3) Teach simple, specific exercises you can easily modify to your unique self, and fit into your busy day, to create more mental space to permanently thrive, feel more fulfilled and be a truly happy mother.

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Episode #21: How meditation helps you thrive in motherhood – with Tom Cronin

Episode #21: How meditation helps you thrive in motherhood – with Tom Cronin

How meditation helps you thrive in motherhood - with Tom Cronin

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“As soon as you start meditating your cortisol (stress hormone) pump gets turned off”

I know what you are thinking: “meditation is not for me!”

I used to think that too. But when I was in the grips of my postpartum breakdown I tried it because I was desperate; I had nothing to lose. Very quickly meditation played a huge part in my recovery from postpartum anxiety, and my thriving in motherhood. Over 7 years later, I still meditate every day.

Meditation makes motherhood easier!

I want you to reap the benefits of meditation too. So, in this episode of The Tough Mothers Podcast and Tough Mothers TV I have a deep conversation with my meditation teacher, Tom Cronin, to explain how meditation works, the scientific benefits of meditation, the importance of meditation in everyday life, and how meditation can improve your experience of motherhood and help you thrive.

Meditating is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your kids. Because when mothers thrive, their children thrive, the world thrives.

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No prior meditation experience is required, but you will get a lot out of it even if you are already meditating.

Key takeaways from this episode of the Tough Mothers Podcast and Tough Mothers TV:
♥    Want to be a happy, fulfilled, calm mother? Meditate!

♥    Mothers are overstimulated. Focusing inwards is the key to peace and calm, in ourselves and our families.

♥    Becoming a mother is a life-changing event. It presents us with the invitation to evolve, move forward and create a beautiful life for ourselves and our children.

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In this episode you will learn [Podcast, TV  time points]:
[1.50, 3.50]

If you are feeling stressed, you must remember that a stress response is a symptom. It indicates something isn’t right in the way you are living your life.

“Our natural response is to medicate or self-medicate stress”

[4.25, 7.20]

Learn the stages of how meditation makes us feel better – many are immediate.

“Instead of swimming upstream you are able to let yourself go and swim downstream”

[8.10, 10.30]

Why creating mental space and gaps in motherhood is so important.

“There is a big difference between the thinking mind and the conscious mind, the awareness of presence.”

[10.55, 14.30]

Becoming a mother is a rashi for many women – a powerful defining moment where you only have two options: either move forward or be overcome with turmoil.

“Meditation helps us to step out of the situation and observe the situation… and move forward”

[15.50, 37.05]

Please, Mama, learn to meditate, even before you become a mother. When we’re in meditation it is like a deep rest and it affects our biochemical makeup.

“There is such little emphasis on the emotional wellbeing of the parents.”

[19.57, 47.40]

Tom shares with us inside information about his book and movie The Portal – which shows how meditation can take us out of crisis and back into harmony.

“If we want to make a change in our family, in our kids, in our world, we need to start with ourselves”

Mentions in this episode:

Click here to learn more about The Portal book and movie

Claim your FREE MORNING MAMA MEDITATION at toughmothers.com/meditations

It’s only 5 minutes and will set you up for a beautiful day.

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We implement a three-step framework to:

1) Help you understand how matrescence and motherhood change you
2) Explain the importance of mental space in motherhood
3) Teach simple, specific exercises you can easily modify to your unique self, and fit into your busy day, to create more mental space to permanently thrive, feel more fulfilled and be a truly happy mother.

A little about my guest Tom Cronin
Tom spent 26 years in finance markets as one of Sydney’s leading bond and swap brokers. He discovered meditation in the early stages of his career, when the anxiety and chaos he was experiencing had hit a crisis point, and it completely transformed his world, both personally and professionally.

Founder of The Stillness Project, a global movement to inspire one billion people to sit in stillness daily, Tom is passionate about reducing stress and chaos in people’s lives.
His ongoing work in transformational leadership and cultivating inner peace through meditation takes him around the world hosting retreats, mentoring, presenting keynote talks, teaching and creating The Portal film-book experience, all part of his commitment to the current planetary shift.

Tom is the author of six previous books for adults:, Insights, The Path To Peace: A Guide To Living With Ease In a Rapidly Changing World, Spirit & Soul: Exploring The Seven States Of Consciousness, Faster Deeper Sleep: The Ultimate Guide To A Daily Recharge, Faster Deeper Calm: How To Live Without Anxiety and Panic. He is also the author of the children’s book Missy Moo Meditates.

You can find Tom on Instagram @tomcronin or at TomCronin.com
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Episode #20: When becoming a mother doesn’t go to plan with Amelia Davatzis

Episode #20: When becoming a mother doesn’t go to plan with Amelia Davatzis

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“Alexander lived for 39 days… to make a choice between life and death is something no mother should ever have to make.”

 

Trigger warning: This episode talks about miscarriage and infant death.

 

Imagine the feeling of giving birth to your baby after several miscarriages. The joy, the elation. The anxiety of ‘will everything be ok’ finally slipping away.
Only for your baby to become critically ill in the hours and days following his birth, and eventually dying in your arms.

This was Amelia Davatzis’ experience. Her son Alexander was born with duodenal atresia – a condition where the first part of the bowel does not develop properly. It is usually repaired quickly and easily, but for Alexander this was not the case.

In this episode of the Tough Mothers Podcast and Tough Mothers TV Amelia bravely shares her story of conception, miscarriages and her first-born’s very short life and tragic death.

I am so grateful Amelia has shared her experience, even though it is very sad for her, and hard for us to hear. But we need to talk about everything in motherhood. Even the tough stuff. ESPECIALLY the tough stuff. We cannot sweep devastation in motherhood under the rug.

As you will hear, infant death is something people don’t know how to deal with, which is exactly why we need to talk about it.

Key takeaways from this episode of the Tough Mothers Podcast and Tough Mothers TV:

♥    Infant death and miscarriage are real, and we need to talk about them openly.

♥    The more we talk about baby death and miscarriage, the more normalized the conversations will become and the better we can support the mother.

♥    There is no right way to grieve. Do what works for you, and take your time.

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In this episode you will learn [Podcast, TV  time points]:

[4.20, 3.50]

The signs and symptoms of ectopic pregnancy you must know, and how it can affect you.

[7.50, 7.20]

It is common to experiencing challenges when trying to conceive. Amelia shares her story.

“That was a blow. Your hopes and everything [are shattered].”

[11.00, 10.30]

Falling pregnant after miscarriage. Learn the common, and very normal, fears a mother has.

“Will there be a heartbeat, or won’t there? I wouldn’t let myself get too excited.”

[15.00, 14.30]

Amelia’s first birth experience: from induction to childbirth and what happened next to Baby Alexander.

“He said: this baby is so sick. He needs to be transferred to the Children’s Hospital right now”

[37.35, 37.05]

The Davatzis’ had to make the devastating decision to choose Alexander’s quality of life over having him in their lives.
Amelia shares the beautiful, yet heart-breaking final days she had with Alexander.

“I would always choose for him not to suffer.”

 

 

[48.10, 47.40]

Alexander’s death left Amelia numb. Losing a child can make you feel like you are not a mother.

“I felt I had no purpose. I only ever wanted to be a mother. It’s something I dreamed of my entire life”

[56.08, 55.38]

You have permission to grieve in your own way. Grief is different for everyone. Amelia shares how she dealt with her grief and what might help you.

“Just do whatever it is you need to do to get through [your grief].”

[60.00, 59.30]

After losing a child it might feel like you will never be able to be happy again. You will be happy again. You will experience joy again.

Amelia will be on the podcast again in 2022 to speak about motherhood after Alexander’s death, and how she found joy again.

“Motherhood is magical.
It grants you the power to fall in love with someone before ever meeting them”

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♥ A bit about Amelia’s very successful blog and Instagram page A Glimpse of Amelia.
I started this page to share a glimpse into my life, sharing what I love. 2012 is where it all began, as when I fell pregnant, I seriously started questioning what I was using on my skin. I thought I was making good decisions by choosing organic products from the supermarket, but it wasn’t until I started turning products over and trying to decipher labels that a whole new world opened up to me. They were so hard to decipher, and I had to keep researching what each ingredient meant. It was so time consuming! This is when I started to discover marketing and labelling was so greenwashed. Reading labels was the only way to truly know what was in a product. What really bothers me the most, are products marketed for our babies and children containing harmful ingredients and also everyday cleaning products we use around our home that are incredibly toxic. I want to empower people to start reading labels, start asking questions, don’t take anything for face value and don’t believe everything you see on the front of a product.

I didn’t feel my page would fully represent me without the ability to share my journey of losing Alexander. I share snippets, quotes, poems, and his story in an effort to help anyone not feel so alone in their grief journey.

Amelia’s page encompasses all of this. “Along with my desire to leave the planet in a better way than when I found it. Buying organic, supporting biodynamic practices, Australian owned and made, composting, reducing plastic, buying bulk, making my own products, keeping a healthy low tox home and passing this information onto my children so one day they can feel empowered to make healthier choices in their lifetime.

To further empower people and support them in their choices, Amelia is working on her new website:
A Glimpse of Amelia www.agoa.com.au
Bookmark it now!

If you need support in your motherhood journey, please check out our Tough Mothers courses which implement a three-step framework to:

1) Help mothers understand how matrescence and motherhood changes them and their brain.
2) Explain to women that they can train their brain to thrive in motherhood.
3) Teach simple, specific, individualised exercises mothers can fit into their busy day to train their brain to be a happy mother.

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If the topics in this episode are triggering for you, or if you feel you need support, please contact you doctor or local mental health line.

In Australia: www.healthdirect.gov.au
In New Zealand: www.mentalhealth.org.nz
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In the UK : www.mind.org.uk
In Ireland: www2.hse.ie
In South Africa: www.safmh.org.za

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